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5 Ways to Keep Marriage Strong

Google “marriage jokes” and these are some of the things you’ll find: Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence–a life sentence. Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind. Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor’s Degree and the woman gets her Masters. Marriage is a… … Continue reading

What to do When He/She Isn’t a Virgin

I got an email from a concerned virgin: a young man troubled by the sexual sins of his partner’s past.  His voice is just one in the choir of hundreds of young men and women that I meet and counsel who are bogged down by the disappointment in their heart at the un-reciprocated sexual purity they face in light of their partner’s sexual history. It’s clear that letting go of a partner’s sexual past continues… … Continue reading

3 Things Married People Should STOP Saying to Singles

We’ve all experienced it. That awkward moment when well-meaning people try to comfort singles with words of hope and encouragement. Sometimes (and by sometimes I mean hardly ever), it actually does what it’s meant to do. But the other 98% of the time, it fails miserably. The problem is that good intentions don’t always translate into good communication. It’s important for those who are married to remember the struggles that may come with being single… … Continue reading