“Miscarriage is so common, it happens all the time.” I have heard this many times in the years since my first miscarriage, and again in the weeks since my second. Yeah, I get it, this happens a lot. Does knowing this fact make it any easier? No. Does knowing this negate the horrible way I feel about it? No. Does knowing this stop the onslaught of tears at random times during the day? Nope. In…

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I remember walking into church, and an older woman caught up to me. I could tell she was upset. She told me that she and her husband had their oldest daughter over to the house, and the visit didn’t go so well. They tried to talk to her about family, her career, the grandkids—anything to get her to open up about her life. Nothing seemed to work. She looked at me and said, “I don’t…

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It’s Father’s Day week! Hurray for this video showing a positive portrayal of dads! As a dad, I love what TDAmeritrade did with this commercial. I am often frustrated by the way our media represents fathers. There is Homer Simpson from The Simpsons TV Show, Daddy Pig from Peppa Pig, and who could forget Al Bundy and Archie Bunker? Oh, there are so many more bad examples of fathers. We need more videos like this…

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Pressure \ pres sure \ noun: A series of urgent claims or demands exerting a strong force on someone, causing a burdensome condition under which it is hard to hold up. Feeling some pressure as a parent? Do I even need to ask? I recently did a Google search on the phrase “how to parent,” and about 590,000,000 sites showed up. Then I googled “how to raise children,” and 385,000,000 sites appeared. I hope you’re…

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My children loved watching Mister Rogers Neighborhood on TV and if I’m honest, his quiet deliberate way of talking about life had a calming effect on me, too. The former Presbyterian pastor’s warm smile, compassionate heart and friendly puppets were convincing to viewers that he, indeed, did “like you just the way you are.” ​But in June of 1990, when I was 36 and our daughters 8, 10 and 12 were no longer Mister Rogers’…

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The most popular post on my blog is one I wrote last year called, The Number One Sign Your Kids are Just Borrowing Your Faith (and Not Developing Their Own). That post has been read by more than 80,000 people and shared almost 14,000 times. Clearly it resonated deeply with people. So what was the sign that your kids are just “borrowing” your faith? They rarely, if ever, ask questions about it. Many parents wrote…

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