Posts Tagged ‘relationships’

Why Marriage Won’t Complete You

What I wouldn’t give to go back to the final scene in the movie “Jerry Maguire” and change Tom Cruise’s romantic line, “I love you…you complete me!” WHY? Because it’s unhealthy and untrue. There. I like that line a lot better. It’s so unfair how the movies that make us swoon and tear up with sweet emotion often carry messages that leave us confused when we do fall in love. 1. Your Spouse Cannot Complete You.… … Continue reading

How to Rock Your Singleness

If you are single and wish that you weren’t, it can be so frustrating, hurtful, lonely- you name it and you’ve probably experienced it during this season. That’s why when a question popped up in my inbox from Jenelle about how to find hope when you are tired of being single, I had to write out some of my thoughts. Jenelle knows that I just got married, but that I also have waited a very long… … Continue reading

Learn How to Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage!

If you’ve ever thought your marriage problems would be solved if you and your spouse simply stopped fighting… think again! This video series is for you! Based on the book, Fight Your Way to a Better Marriage, this series goes deeper with author Dr. Greg Smalley and his wife Erin Smalley from Focus on the Family. They use years of counseling, research, and success stories to teach us how to use marital conflict as a way to deepen and… … Continue reading

12 Ways to Make Your Remarriage Work

My wife Brenda and I have been married for almost 15 years—remarried that is. We were both active and involved in our churches before we met, so we never thought we would find ourselves on this side of the marriage fence. Divorce was not in our plan. Yet, both of us found ourselves divorced, healing, dating again, and asking, “How do I make my remarriage work?” A huge ripple effect was created by “the great… … Continue reading

A New Playbook For Your Marriage

New Plays for a Better Marriage I don’t claim to be very knowledgeable about football but I do know that teams have different plays for different situations. The quarterback barks out some numbers, flips the ball to the guy behind him (whatever that position is) and everyone seems to know just what to do. Sometimes, they pass the ball or kick the ball or run the ball. Sometimes they catch the ball, put it on… … Continue reading

Does Your Marriage Reflect Christ?

A few years ago I learned  the important lesson that marriage is a reflection of our relationship with Christ. Katie and I faced the biggest crisis of our marriage. I started pastoring Woodland Christian Church when it was fairly small. Within three years the congregation had tripled in size. I admit that before I became a pastor, I was completely unaware of how much work is actually involved in shepherding a church of even a few hundred people. I had… … Continue reading

The Bachelorette, the Currency of Sex, & the Spirit of Divorce

I sat down with my wife last night to watch “The Bachelorette.”I know. I know. Bad move. Such a bad move. I think I could actually feel my soul dying inside. I had never seen an episode before, but let me tell you, watching one girl simultaneously date a group of competitive suitors is not my idea of a good time. At first, it actually made me physically nauseous witnessing a group of grown men… … Continue reading

5 Ways to Keep Marriage Strong

Google “marriage jokes” and these are some of the things you’ll find: Marriage is not a word. It is a sentence–a life sentence. Marriage is very much like a violin; after the sweet music is over, the strings are attached. Marriage is love. Love is blind. Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind. Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor’s Degree and the woman gets her Masters. Marriage is a… … Continue reading

What to do When He/She Isn’t a Virgin

I got an email from a concerned virgin: a young man troubled by the sexual sins of his partner’s past.  His voice is just one in the choir of hundreds of young men and women that I meet and counsel who are bogged down by the disappointment in their heart at the un-reciprocated sexual purity they face in light of their partner’s sexual history. It’s clear that letting go of a partner’s sexual past continues… … Continue reading

6 Key Things to Do When Your Spouse Is Going through a Difficult Time

When Bo was in prison and I (Gari) was dealing with serious illness, we needed to encourage and support each other because we were both in a tough place. As a man, Bo sometimes needed support in different ways than I needed as a woman. In our book, Grace Behind Bars, we both write about our journey. Following are some keys we would like to share for getting through difficult times. 1. When your husband… … Continue reading