When someone in your life is walking through a crisis, it can be difficult to know exactly how to pray for them–especially when the situation they’re going through seems hopeless. That’s exactly how one listener felt when she emailed Wally:
What should I pray for if there’s no hope left in the situation? My parent’s best friends were trying to have a child for nearly ten years, and when they finally had their son after a difficult pregnancy, they were overjoyed.
But this last June, his parents noticed he was limping and favoring his right arm and leg. He was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor that affects an area of the brain that can’t be operated on. He has some breathing troubles and can’t talk or move.
Knowing that he is terminal, my family and I have kinda stopped praying for a miracle. What should I pray for when there is no hope? What do you pray when the situation will eventually end….but not in the way you want it to?
With your help, we came up with some ways to pray for the people in our lives who seem to be in “hopeless” situations:
1. Pray for the journey (not just the outcome)
Obviously, all of us want the miracle. We want the diagnosis to be reversed. We want to see the marriage restored. And while we believe God can perform miracles and heal our bodies and hearts, we still need prayer in the process.
Zach once heard his pastor say, “Don’t pray for the situation to be lowered to your level of faith. Pray for your faith to be raised to the level of the situation.”
It may never get any easier. The outcome might be bleak. But we can pray for strength, wisdom, and the peace that literally passes all understanding to come when it’s needed most.
2. Pray for the people their story will impact
For someone going through the darkest days of his or her life, it can be impossible to believe that God will use it for His good. But it’s good to pray that for someone you know who’s going through a hard time.
Our circumstances become a part of our story; pray that God will use that story to help someone in the future who may be going through something similar.
3. Pray for ways to love on them
When someone in our lives receives the worst news possible, we don’t always know what to do. That’s why it’s important to pray that we can be fully aware of their needs.
How can God use us? How can we serve them? Maybe it’s fixing a dish for the family, or taking their dog for a walk, or mowing their overgrown lawn. Maybe it’s as simple as being a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on.
4. Pray for those around them
Pray that the person walking through the tragedy is surrounded by the right people. Grandparents, cousins, friends, and coworkers are charged with being the emotional support of the person in the center of it all–all while dealing with their own levels of grief. Pray for their hearts as they face the circumstances, and pray that in the midst of it, they can be the best support possible.
5. Pray for mercies along the way
Ultimate healing may not come in the way we expect. But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t new mercies every morning, provisions at the exact right time, and small miracles throughout the process. Pray that God will provide those moments and that the family will see the good….even in the midst of the unthinkable bad.
In our podcast, we discussed some other ways to pray. If you find yourself in a helpless situation, our Prayer Pastor would love to pray for you:
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My wife is very sick and is going through very difficult times Please pray for her strength to be at peace with God and have the Wisdom to know she will get through her turmoils
Received: October 1, 2022
Please pray for me and my family family. I am going through the greatest struggle and heartache I have been through so far. My relationship with my adult daughter has been strained so severely since April through a betrayal It started with her and her husband toward me.. After that, she cut off all communication with me and would not allow me to see my granddaughters. Then 3 months later she did a genealogy test did and discovered that her dad is not her biological dad. All of the family knew there was a possibility of this other person being her dad but we were not 100% certain and he was not in the picture and never pursued a paternity test. We just never found the right time to discuss that there could possibly be another man that could be her father. Naturally she is furious with me and only me and has vowed to cut me off forever. I was very close with my daughter until April and very close with my granddaughters. This feels like a death to me. I'm trying to lean on God and trust Him through the journey. Of course I want to see my family and I reconciled. That is my hope. But I need strength for this journey. There are days I feel the pain will consume me.
Received: October 1, 2022
Pray that this evil against me will not spread, that God will make it so that it can never happen. Rebuke O and whoever else is treating me like this and trying to destroy me. I need reassurance from God also.
Received: September 30, 2022
Please pray for my health I have epilepsy absent seizures also having stomach pain on the right side going to a endoscopy test in a week pray that test is negative and for complete healing in my body. Thank you
Received: September 30, 2022
Thank you Jesus for continuing to protect me, thank you that these malicious people won't win and nothing evil against me in this way will happen. Please immediately deal with those trying to hurt me.
Received: September 28, 2022
Please pray for me and my family. We are going through a lot right now. Pray for God's intervention and protection. For grace and strength, wisdom and direction. Pray for God's hand on S and S. God please move in their lives. Bring salvation, healing and deliverance. Help them to make good choices and decisions please. I Ask in Jesus name. Amen.
Received: September 25, 2022