Posts Tagged ‘grief’

Unshelter: Allowing our Kids a View Into Brokenness

  “ “Hey babe. How about a date night? We can make a nice meal. Light some candles. A minor lung procedure?” What? Who SAYS that? Who says that? My husband, Dan, said that. He had a “PleurX Drain,” placed in his lungs to help alleviate the fluid caused  by cancer as he lived out his final months at home. Yup. That was a date night. Me, a nursing school drop out, placing a drain… … Continue reading

FIVE THINGS: Five Things You Could Say to Someone After Tragedy

Three senseless acts of violence in our country in one week. Dayton, Ohio…El Paso, Texas…Gilroy, California. At least 34 lives lost. We can’t make sense of senselessness except to say it’s a product of evil, of the brokenness of this world in which we live.  When my husband, Dan, was very sick, toward the end of a four year battle with lung cancer, he chose some verses from the Bible as our family verses. Lung… … Continue reading

5 Things to Say to Someone Who is Hurting

Well meaning people say the funniest things sometimes. I’ve experienced some loss. My Mom passed away when I was in my early 20s, my husband and father of my children died a few years ago, and my Dad a few months after that. My kids and I thought we’d move across the country for a fresh start last year, only to land in a new place with the same old problem: pain. We all get to… … Continue reading

FIVE THINGS: 5 Things I’ve Learned Since I’ve been Single

  When I was married, I was oblivious to the challenges of my friends who were single, or single again. And, I’m sorry. I had been married to Dan MOST OF MY LIFE, close to 24 years. Since he passed away four years ago, it’s been eye opening. Outside of learning to grieve, and learning to heal, I’ve been learning the ropes of how to do this single life. FIVE THINGS I’ve learned since I’ve been… … Continue reading

Does God Understand Our Hurt?

Wally, I listen to your radio show every day! In fact, for the last 3 years, WAY-FM has been all I’ve listened to in the car. Last year, my husband and I separated, and I felt my world was ending. Your show–the music, your banter, and the jokes–helped me through what I thought were my darkest days. Seven weeks ago, my 17-year-old son took his own life. Now, my faith in God is barely hanging on. I haven’t… … Continue reading

The Pain of Miscarriage and the Truth to Combat It

“Miscarriage is so common, it happens all the time.” I have heard this many times in the years since my first miscarriage, and again in the weeks since my second. Yeah, I get it, this happens a lot. Does knowing this fact make it any easier? No. Does knowing this negate the horrible way I feel about it? No. Does knowing this stop the onslaught of tears at random times during the day? Nope. In… … Continue reading

How am I Supposed to Celebrate Christmas After Losing a Loved One? – Mark Schultz

“You know what? The tree’s up, the lights are up, but it’s a different kind of Christmas because my dad’s not here.” Even though Christmas is a wonderful time of year, it can also be a struggle for families who have lost a loved one. Mark Schultz knows this all too well. He tells the story of his wife, her dad, their adorable Christmas traditions, and how the family worked through the Christmas season after… … Continue reading

Sometimes There Are No Words

Sometimes there is just nothing to say. There are some things that happen in life that words won’t heal. There are some things that take our breath away that only silence can breathe life back into our lungs. They are the things of life that are beyond someone giving a kind word, a positive hopeful thought, a story of so and so who went through this and that and made it through, a good sermon,… … Continue reading

What a Creepy TV Show Taught Zach About Grief

Samuel Cole, Zach’s son, would have been two years old today. (He had Trisomy 18 and passed away a day and a half after birth.) Zach heard this quote from a creepy new show called The Whispers that he felt was a perfect description of dealing with grief: Grief is a suitcase that sits at the bottom of your bed, and no matter what, without failure, you have to pick it up every day, take… … Continue reading