Posts Tagged ‘parenting’

Unshelter: Allowing our Kids a View Into Brokenness

  “ “Hey babe. How about a date night? We can make a nice meal. Light some candles. A minor lung procedure?” What? Who SAYS that? Who says that? My husband, Dan, said that. He had a “PleurX Drain,” placed in his lungs to help alleviate the fluid caused  by cancer as he lived out his final months at home. Yup. That was a date night. Me, a nursing school drop out, placing a drain… … Continue reading

Letting Go

I have found one of the greatest lessons, and most difficult things required as a parent, is this: LETTING GO. If you think about it, the process of letting go begins at birth. The baby is born. She’s been really close to you for nine months. Really close. And what is the first thing that happens? They whisk her away. Your eyes follow the baby closely, looking desperately toward the table where the nurse took… … Continue reading

Imperfect Moms, Great Kids

I used to think I couldn’t let my kids know just how imperfect I am. A parenting mistake would lead me to ponder my value as a mom. They know we aren’t perfect. In fact, I’m thankful my kids have learned from some of my mistakes, so they hopefully don’t have to make them too.  I sat down with my daughter, Mary, who is 23 now, to talk about life, parenting, to give her a… … Continue reading

Wherever You Go…

“Wherever you go, there you are.”   That’s a funny thing my mom used to say.   Only funny because she had no idea that the intended meaning of the phrase she used to encourage me actually meant something entirely different.   She said this to me when I was leaving grade school for middle school. Or, as we called it, “junior high.”  Who calls it junior high? She must be old.  I was freaking… … Continue reading

What’s YOUR Chapter Called?

  THANK YOU for sharing some life with me on the air last week by telling me, if we were writing a book together, what your chapter would be titled in a book on parenting…marriage…a book on being single…even on how to be a better puppy owner! My goal was to get to know you better, but really I learned a TON! Here’s what we learned: Parenting is hard: Popular chapter titles were: “I’m Your Mom: We Can Be… … Continue reading

Boys Will Be Boys (Unless We Teach Them to be Men)

It can be scary to raise children in a world of Harvey Weinsteins. But the good new is, all is not hopeless. We have the ability to change the world by raising our boys to be men of integrity. A friend of mine put a list together of “rules” for her son as he grows up, and we added a few to the list: Eat lunch with the new kid. Give credit. Take the blame. Say you’re sorry….there’s no… … Continue reading

What Can Parents Do to Reengage with Their Millennial Child?

I remember walking into church, and an older woman caught up to me. I could tell she was upset. She told me that she and her husband had their oldest daughter over to the house, and the visit didn’t go so well. They tried to talk to her about family, her career, the grandkids—anything to get her to open up about her life. Nothing seemed to work. She looked at me and said, “I don’t… … Continue reading

Why Brant’s 24th Birthday Changed His Life Forever

This month, my life is perfectly split in two. Exactly 24 years ago this month, I turned 24. What I remember most from that month wasn’t my birthday: It was this guy I met. He was very, VERY short. I remember that. So short, in fact, that the first time I met him, someone just… handed him to me. Seriously. They handed me a guy. I didn’t really know how to interact with him, so… … Continue reading

We Go to Disneyland Without Our Kids

We Go to Disneyland Without Our Kids and Don’t Feel Guilty  Ask kids to describe a dream vacation and 9 times out of 10, “Disney” will be in the reply. Taking children to Disney Parks is an experience like no other, but Disney Parks without children is magical in a completely different way. Presently, we are the parents of two teen daughters. We have not been neglect in exposing them to Disney Resorts as they’ve… … Continue reading

Dear Pregnant Woman, Be Kind to Yourself.

Dear Pregnant Woman, I see you next to me at the store, at the office, and walking down the street. I can see the stress across your face and in your hunched shoulders. I can see the exhaustion hiding in the circles under your eyes. How I wish I could hug you and tell you to relax and just enjoy this time, these nine months of everything changing. I promise you that they may seem… … Continue reading